5 Essential Life Lessons to Unfold in the Self-Discovery Process
The Self-Discovery Process is ESSENTIAL when seeking to live the life of your dreams. Here are 5 life lessons to learn and practice for personal growth and freedom.
For many of us. The Self-Discovery Process is overwhelming. Despite motivating us to show up and take steps towards pursuing our dreams and goals. It is also about the trials and tribulations of PERSONAL GROWTH.
However, when I stumbled upon these 5 lessons. They completely changed how I viewed the Self-Discovery Process. If you were wondering How to Embark on a Journey of Self-Discovery, you are reading the right post.
Although this Work is Not Easy, it’s ESSENTIAL!
The true gift of the Self-Discovery Process, is becoming fully aware of the different of aspects yourself. To change the narrative of your story with meaningful intentions and purpose. Once you begin to take Steps to Self-Discovery. You will find awe-inspiring parts of you, that were once hidden in the dark.
As you embrace these new levels of CONSCIOUS AWARENESS, take back your POWER. Give yourself complete permission to HEAL and TRANSFORM.
Then, take up space and BLOSSOM. Above all, if you feel compelled to go deeper. Spark a SPIRITUAL JOURNEY.
READ: 3 Essential Phases of the Spiritual Journey for Complete Beginners!
Not a fan of “dwelling” on my weaknesses. For years, I opted in for the easy route. Using fear as a distraction. I would run, hide and make excuses for any feelings of discomfort. Lost, I would shrink myself for the comfort and satisfaction of others.
Allowing surface-level rubbish to accumulate. I unknowingly lost trust in myself. Moreover, as I continued to encounter meaningless accomplishments. I could no longer resist the need to examine my life.
Desperately wanting something better. To PURGE everything and START OVER. The Self-Discovery Process was initiated.
LIFE LESSONS FOR THE SELF-DISCOVERY PROCESS!
1. The Power of Forgiveness:
Obsessing over rough emotions and experiences from the past, adversely impacts our overall well-being. If you notice yourself clinging to the past. Thinking about how things use to be or should be (etc.).
Sit, define and UNFOLD with the concept of SELF-FORGIVENESS.
A hindrance to learning valuable lessons for PERSONAL GROWTH. Drifting to the past can often have you missing out on many OPPORTUNITIES in the NOW.
Furthermore, the Psychology of Forgiveness thrives when you can truly release the mistakes and negative narratives from the past. Allowing you, the creator of your life, to truly target personal dreams and goals.
Generally speaking, life is continuously evolving. Be OK with knowing you did the best you could with what you had. Let go of any resistance and grasp the idea of accepting what is – allow FORGIVENESS.
Preventing the accumulation of resentment and turning suffering into INNER PEACE. Start again from a POSITIVE SPACE of Radical Self-Forgiveness.
Personal Note!
It took me time to forgive myself for not realizing my potential sooner, rather than later. Thinking about what I should have done kept me in a continuous loop hole of underpaid jobs and unproductively trying to right too many past wrongs.
2. Understanding & Healing the Fragile Mind:
Whether we examine crippling fears that block our potential. Or, disassociate from cycles of negative thought patterns that exhaust our energy. The first step to any healing is becoming AWARE of our fragile minds.
Above all, what really needs to STOP is unintentionally MANIFESTING a sinister reality by engaging in pessimistic cycles of self-talk and doubt. Similarly, if struggling with the idea of PERSPECTIVE or seeing the bigger picture of a situation. Seek GUIDANCE, preferably from an unbiased 3rd party.
In general, why worry excessively about things beyond your control? Things happen for a reason and that reason will eventually reveal itself with time. If anything, start small. Replace one negative emotion with a positive.
Try focusing ALL your attention on what is working. Instead of freaking out about what isn’t. In short, chill-out, breathe and be in the PRESENT MOMENT.
A Push for clarity by releasing limiting beliefs!
Personally, when it comes to the MIND. I seem to always consider the idea of – CONDITIONING. Unfortunately, at a very early age, when our minds are most open to suggestion. We are taught a bunch of insignificant stuff.
Later in life, we then have to filter through and PURGE what is no longer needed. In an attempt to search for something more and AUTHENTIC.
In all, by understanding and Healing the Mind in the Self-Discovery Process. We ESSENTIALLY nourish the BODY and illuminate the SOUL.
3. The Power of Self-Validation:
Many of us unconsciously equate SELF-VALIDATION with external factors. Like, relying on others to define our worth and capabilities. But, by giving up this responsibility, we give away our power. Doomed to repeat old patterns. Shrinking to fit into bare minimum expectations. We miss the potential of connecting fully to our true thoughts, feelings and actions (without judgment).
How to Deal with Imposter Syndrome?
Recently experiencing feelings of inadequacy, anxiety and distrust in my intuition, as well as, capabilities. Plus, an extreme lack of confidence in myself. I realized I was dealing with the common concept of Imposter Syndrome. What or who, was the trigger? The answer, starting a new project and comparing myself to other individuals.
“Comparison is the thief of Joy”
A turning point. It was time to sit and unfold with the lesson of SELF-VALIDATION. That is to say, we are not broken or flawed. As is, we are COMPLETE, PERFECT and WHOLE.
4. The Psychology Behind Acceptance:
“Attention is the key to transformation and full attention also implies ACCEPTANCE.”
Eckhart tolle
Staying balanced and calm, even in unstable conditions. The Psychology of Acceptance is about paying full attention to the emotional self. It’s learning to be open to feelings and unconscious impulses without being inundated. Rather than allowing them to BOTTLE UP, SHAKE and then BURST.
Additionally, when life gets tough. We need to be confident in our emotional stability to handle the challenges we come across. Likewise, if we are aiming for inner peace. We must remain emotionally mature when faced with negative “NANCY” energy.
The Balanced & Calm Approach to ACCEPTING What is and the Things Beyond Our Control!
As we master ACCEPTANCE, personal boundaries are established. A true belief system and smarter decisions are made. There is an ALIGNMENT between LOGIC and INTUITION. Now WISER, we recognize how emotions affect human dynamics.
Self-help books are great tools for diving into the lesson of ACCEPTANCE. Specifically, anything on EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE. Furthermore, owning a journal is key for observation. To dive deep into the SUBCONSCIOUS mind. Intentionally working on negative emotional patterns. Check out a Certified Hypnotherapist.
In sum, embrace all aspects of yourself in the Self-Discovery Process. The good, the bad, even the ugly.
What is Emotional Intelligence & Why it’s Important!
Definition: The capacity to be aware of, control, and express one’s emotions, and to handle interpersonal relationships judiciously and empathetically.
Oxford Languages
“Being emotionally intelligent is key to how you respond to what life gives us. It’s also a key component of compassion and understanding the deeper reasons behind other people’s actions. E.I. is especially important when you are dealing with stressful situations like conflict, change, and obstacles.” – Inspire Kindness Blog
5. Learn to Breathe (in the Moment):
Besides mental clarity. When you Learn to Breath properly, you sleep better, digest food efficiently, improve the bodies immune and respiratory systems. As well as, reduce stress and anxiety levels.
If possible, STOP whatever you are doing, RIGHT NOW. For this 1-minute Breathing Exercise:
Place one hand on your belly, the other on your chest.
- Slowly, take a deep breathe IN – TWO, THREE, FOUR … (through the nose)
- With pursed lips, slowly let it OUT – TWO, THREE, FOUR, FIVE, SIX, SEVEN, EIGHT …
Repeat 3x MORE – For a total of 4 Rounds.
Note: The hand on your belly should move. While the hand on your chest should remain still.
As you breathe. Release any pain inflicted by actions, intent and words on the emotional and physical self. How do you feel? Cry if you need to. Shout. Scream. Bear hug the cleansing process. Let it all out NOW, to focus on moving forward with CLARITY.
A point of Acceptance in the Self-Discovery Process!
Our emotions are a necessary part of life for GROWTH and DEVELOPMENT. Use them to expand your perspective. Moreover, time heals all wounds. Know whatever discomfort you are experiencing is temporary. Soon, you will be on a path to recovery.
If possible, reinforce POSITIVE thoughts with POWERFUL words. AFFIRMATIONS and/or MANTRAS are ESSENTIAL. Similarly, PRAYERS are healing. With certainty, spare yourself from past pain by living and Learning to Breathe in the PRESENT MOMENT.
“No arrival point when you’re on a path of GROWTH”
Alex elle
To conclude, this post was about 5 ESSENTIAL life lessons to UNFOLD in the Self-Discovery Process. Although challenging, I promise, this imperfect process gets much better over time. The more we deep dive, the more we heal. With patience, start now and commit to doing the work
